Be a more confient man
By Rachel Coffey, Jun 13 2018 03:06PM
Sometimes it seems taken for granted that guys are doing just fine as they are. Inside though it can feel like a very different story. It doesn’t matter if you are the shy quiet type or outwardly really successful, we can all find ourselves a little stuck now and then. If you feel as though you could do with a confidence boost or get out of a rut, read on for some useable tips.
Be aware of how you see yourself
We often have a perception of how others might see us, but how many times have you stopped to really notice how you see yourself? Start to notice if you are giving yourself a bad press. Talking to yourself in a negative way. Become your own best mate, instead of your unhelpful enemy. Begin to change the way you talk and think about yourself and you will begin to feel different too.
Take care of yourself
If your sock draw has more holes in it than a football net, its time for a brutal cull! If the last shirt that got hung in your wardrobe was purchased by your mum/daughter/sister or was exactly the same style as the last 20 you bought, go and find something that actually feels like you! If the last time you spent more than £12.50 on a haircut or a wet shave was, well, pretty much never - get out there and do something about it. This isn’t vanity, its about self esteem and self respect!
Don’t bottle it. It just grows. Find some activities that allow you to let off steam and feel more relaxed. The acid test is to choose something makes you feel good not just at the time, but the day after too. If you are feeling particularly stressed, write that email and book yourself a few sessions with a coach. It will be worth it in the long run. Stress doesn’t just make us miserable, it can lead to all kinds of health complications, both physical and mental. Get in there first and come up with some strategies to sort it out. You will be so glad you did.
Plodding on seems easy to do, but it isn’t. In fact, its far harder to keep making ourselves do things that we don’t want to do, than it is to get a plan together and find a way forward. Set yourself some goals - at least a few months ahead and figure out a step by step plan of how to get there. I’m not suggesting you won’t need to put some work in, but it will be worth it every step of the way. Not only do you end up somewhere you want to be, you feel good every time you achieve something in your plan. Win win. Again a coach is someone who can help get you started if you want a little direction.
Whether it is relationships, work or just direction in life, we all need a bit of help sometimes. It can be hard for anyone to make the first step and break out of a stuck or downward routine - but even more so for men at times. Remember it isn’t weak to find someone who can help - its actually the bravest and most strategic thing anyone can do. Time to begin moving in the right direction.