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By Rachel Coffey, Sep 20 2017 05:38PM



Business or ‘executive coaching’ has been around for some time. In the early days it may have been seen as somewhat of a luxury. However in our current business landscape, where there is often a great deal of pressure, it can make all the difference to someone with great potential burning out versus truly succeeding for themselves and their company.

Business coaching is about being able to use the knowledge and opportunities around us by putting ourselves in the best position to view them, evaluate them and make the decisions that allow us to take advantage of them.

Crucially business coaching not only helps us succeed in life but also gives us the skills that will allow us to actually enjoy it. It can be lonely at the top (and trying to get there!) and it can be a real asset to have a confidential and objective coach in your corner, whose main aim is to get you where you want to be (even if you aren’t entirely certain where that is yet!). Below are just three areas in which business coaching can help, whether you are an entrepreneur, owner, in the exec team or even working your way up the ladder;


Creating considered changes and good decisions

There are many decisions to be made on a daily basis and being able to make them in a balanced and confident manner is essential. Making decisions because we feel we have to or are under pressure to do so won’t get us the results we want. Coaching can help you keep a level head and see all the options in front of you, ensuring your decisions will be contributing to your success.

Businesses need to adapt and change in order to survive and change can be a wonderful thing, but not everybody finds it easy. Coaching will help you feel balanced in your approach, stay objective and ensure that the changes and decisions you make are supporting your purpose going forward.


Work life balance

Sure we need to put in the energy, be 100% committed and work for success. It needs to get us what we want professionally but it also has to deliver for us personally. Sometimes a business can feel all consuming and I often hear how this has had a negative impact on personal relationships. A good coach will help you to draw that balance. Open up better communications with both loved ones and colleagues. Manage expectations and allow everyone, including you, to get to enjoy the good side of you, not just the stressed busy one.

Of course, there may always be times when work has to take priority, but there is a big difference between that and getting stuck on an ever faster hamster wheel of work. A coach will help you achieve a balance and ensure that your work is supporting your life and not the other way around. They’ll also help you switch off at those important times you have put aside to do so.


Public speaking and communication

If you find the right business coach, they may also be able to help you communicate better in order to more effectively achieve your aims. Whether your knees turn to Jelly at the thought of speaking in front of particular groups or you just need to find ways to put your point across at the same time as getting others on your side, a good speaking and communications business coach should be able to really help you. Much of it is about finding an authentic inner confidence, staying calm under pressure and building a rapport that engages and naturally persuades. Learning how to sound great also helps! If you find the right coach they will be able to identify what needs to change and have the techniques available to allow you to do it as effectively as possible.


There are many other areas in which a business coach can help. It can be a seriously good investment - and surprisingly reasonable when you look at the benefits. Have a chat with your prospective coach, you need someone you can speak with openly and honestly. Let them know what you think you need, but more than that, what you’d like to change or where you’d like to get to. Remember though, this isn’t a job interview. It doesn’t matter where your coach sees themselves in five years time or what achievement they are most proud of. What matters is that they can help you get where you want to be in a way that works for you. The results can be amazing!


Rachel offers business, voice and presentation skills coaching on-site, at her base in Imperial Wharf and at Gazelli house.


By Rachel Coffey, Sep 20 2017 05:25PM


Anxious thoughts
Anxious thoughts

The recent events in Manchester and London have come to a shock to all of us. Sometimes it can be difficult to comprehend how such things can happen out of the blue. It also isn’t unusual to feel anxious or uncertain, but it is possible to lessen those feelings of anxiety and help us feel more normal again. If you are someone who tends to worry it is even more important to feel safe and assured.


Breathe

Relaxing our breathing is one of the most helpful things to do if we are feeling anxious. The easiest way to do this is to practice at a time that we feel relatively ok. Close your eyes and think about a time when you felt really safe and in control. Remember everything you can about it - colours, sounds smells. Play it through in your head several times. Now notice your breathing. The more you practice, the more you will notice it is calm and relaxed. When you are at your calmest, say a phrase to yourself. Something helpful, like “I am calm and in control”. Say exactly the same thing each time you practice, when you are feeling at your most relaxed. Next time you feel the anxiety beginning to rise, focus on your breathing and calmly say the same phrase to yourself. In time you will find the feeling of anxiety lessening.


Be informed, not overwhelmed

It can feel overwhelming when we repeatedly hear and see increasingly graphic images on our screens and front pages. It is important to be informed, but we need to differentiate that from becoming overwhelmed. Limit your exposure to the amount of information you need to feel connected. Also choose where you hear your news, a mainstream prime time source is likely to be more reliable and measured than something we might find on the internet. If you have been feeling particularly fearful, maybe take a break from it and ask somebody you trust to tell you anything you need to know for a couple of days. Allow yourself the time to process what you are hearing and you will feel calmer.


You are safer than you think

Look at your life and the people within it and have a moment to notice how much love and security there is there. If you take a look around you now, you will begin to see all the many things in the world that are there to keep us safe. From the handrail on the stairs, to the cool wall of your kettle, the pin number for your card to the use by date on the milk. Our world is stacked full of things to protect us, we are just so used to them, we take them for granted.

What happened in the recent attacks was awful. Notice though if you have started to over imagine them or pretend you were there, this can really heighten anxiety. Instead, take a moment to remember those involved and also see that you and tens of millions of others are in fact safe. That way you will be there to love, support and be strong for those that need it.



People experience anxiety in many different ways. You are unique and so too will be the thoughts that make you to feel safe, versus those that have made you feel uncertain or anxious. If you have been struggling with this issue - and it is surprising just how many people do - it might be worth looking into one to one coaching. Coaching can help identify your personal triggers and allow you to feel much calmer and in control. It really is possible to lessen that anxiety and enjoy life again.






By Rachel Coffey, Jan 10 2017 02:15PM

With the holidays rapidly becoming a distant memory, the long stretch of January winds its path. Resolutions abound, whether they have fallen by the wayside or we are willing ourselves to keep it up. January can appear to be a stagnant month.


Maybe though its time to open our eyes. What we do today creates our tomorrow. How we think today shapes it and how we feel colours it. Although we may not always see it, change can begin in the smallest of ways, even on the dullest of days.


Sometimes people say to me that they have kept things the same because they couldn’t see how to change it. They weren’t sure what they wanted. Sometimes people say that they didn’t have the energy or they felt too down. But here’s the thing, coping with stress, a lack of confidence or a situation we don’t want to be in, takes up a huge amount of energy and even time. It is a heavy load to carry. The moment that load begins to lighten things start to get easier, sometimes right away. The key is to make a decision and act upon it. Just making a decision that you’d like things to be different and doing something about it. The beginning is that simple.


The world is full of possibilities. Good and bad. They are all there for the making and all there for the taking too. It’s our choices, conscious and unconscious that take us along a particular path. Even if we have found ourselves in circumstances not entirely of our own making, what we do next is up to us.


If you think it is time to move forward, do yourself a favour and make life brighter, coaching can help to get you where you want to go. Even the seemingly most self assured people can benefit from having a dedicated person on thier side. It can make the difference between taking the long route round and over thinking, to feeling supported, with a sense of direction and purpose. And importantly having a confidential and impartial expert meaning you’ll be in safe hands.


January is a great time to change.

By Rachel Coffey, Jun 22 2016 03:09PM



Sometimes it can be hard to find the willpower to stay focused and motivated. Never more so, it would seem when you are in the process of giving up smoking!


There is a fantastic new website I’d like to share with you, in the form of quitza.com, it is a place buzzing with peer to peer support, personalised progress reports and even rewards. It has all kinds of tools to help and inspire you to quit the habit.


Coaching is also a fantastic way to keep you on track and set new goals. Combine the two and, whatever your motivation, smoking will be nothing but a distant memory. You can join online here

quitza.com/settings/quitdata/coachlisttest?JsTime=Europe/London








By Rachel Coffey, May 14 2016 10:50AM

Win through the exam
Win through the exam

Exams can bring fear into the sternest of hearts, but with a little positivity, things can go much more smoothly and give us a far better chance of success. Here are some tips to help you or your loved ones as they head into their exam period:


Get your strategy right

So many people try to cram bits of information in at the very last minute, either staying up late or squeezing revision in with moments to go. Unless this particularly works for you, you need to take a look at your strategy.

Think about your worst exams and what to you did the night before and that morning. OK, this is your list of exactly what not to do. Now think of something that you are good at that someone else might get nervous about. Think of a particular time. It might have been a test, a presentation you were doing or a sports match. Anything that you know others might have been nervous about but you felt confident. Think how you were behaving that morning and what you were thinking. Think about the night before, what did you do? This is a good place of where to start for the run up to your next exam.

Generally, decide what time you are going to finish revising and ensure you have made a crib sheet - very brief - of things to remember the next day. Get everything sorted, pens, pencils, your transport etc. Get people to be helpful (warn others you need the bathroom free at a certain time or it’d be great if they kept the noise down the night before). Don’t rely on others too heavily unless you are certain you can - use them as back up e.g. set your own alarm AND ask someone to wake you too. Then, at least three times, the day and night before, play through the whole exam in your mind, in colour. Imagine it going really well, with ease, knowing the answers, being creative and to the point. Imagine it right through and having a positive outcome. Do this in detail, positive thoughts only. Then give yourself at least half an hour before bed of doing something completely different.

The following morning, give yourself plenty of time, plan it out so that you feel relaxed and happy. Even if it means doing something that you wouldn’t usually do on an exam day, like going to the gym or out for a walk. Whatever it takes to feel relaxed - that will give you the best chance of success. Keep your head together and you will come out on top.


Watch what you are saying

That is watch what you are saying to yourself! You need to become aware of how you are speaking to yourself in your mind. Anything negative, turn it into a positive and if you can, do something about it. So, “Oh, I hope I don’t forget my calculator” turns into “I need to take my calculator tomorrow, I’ll put it in my bag now”. Think of yourself as your own best friend. Make sure what you are saying is both helpful and useful. Hardly any of us would talk to others at a time of stress the way we’d usually talk to ourselves.

The more positive you can be, the better. Carry this through right into the exam. If you hear a negative comment in your mind, ask yourself what the purpose of it is and if it is useful. If it isn’t, bin it, if it is, re-phrase it and act upon it.

Also don’t pick up on others interest or worry. If someone asks if you are nervous, don’t put yourself through the wrangler of feeling obliged to divulge your greatest fears. Instead, inform them that you are staying calm and thinking positively as it will give you the best chance to succeed.

Just before the exam, imagine a little force field around you. How others feel or how they think things will go has no bearing on you. Stay in a focussed and keep your head high.


Breathe

This is really important. Think of something that makes you feel naturally happy and relaxed. Now put your hand on your stomach and close your eyes and really imagine a time when you felt truly relaxed and happy. After a few minutes,notice your breathing. If your tummy is moving slowly in and out, this is your low relaxed breath and it means we are confident and in control.

If at any point you feel stressed or your mind goes blank, go back to this low breath and it will send a message to your brain that you are OK. It will get you out of many a tight spot!



Although exams can seem daunting, if we look at it another way, it is our chance to show what we know. It would be awful if somebody just estimated how good we were and it affected the rest of our lives. Being as calm and in control as possible is the way forward. Even if we don’t think we know the answer, trusting ourselves and going with our gut can mean that we dig something up from the deep depths of our brains, that turns out to be correct after all.


Using these tips will help to give you the very best chance of success. Now, go wow them!

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